Welcome to
Sexaholics Anonymous Ontario

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) From Newcomers

“How Can I Stay Healthy Without Some Kind of Sexual Outlet?”

Our collective experience is that sexual sobriety will free us from a compulsive need to be sexual. We seek to restore the instinct for sexual intimacy to its proper place for reproduction and maintaining healthy ties with a spouse. When we stopped entertaining lust and sexual stimulation, the need to be obsessively sexual left us.

“I Admit I’ve Been Overdoing It With Sex. Can’t I Just Cut Down a Little?”

SA is for those who have lost control of this area of their lives. We come to SA because we cannot stop, whatever our forms of sexual behavior might be. We no longer have the ability to choose to stop.

“How Can I Tell If I’m Addicted?”

You have to come to the realization for yourself. Recognizing our own powerlessness is what we call “working the First Step.” As the First Step states, “We admitted we were powerless over lust-that our lives had become unmanageable.”
It takes time and often a lot of pain to admit we are defeated. Sooner or later, we say something like, “I give up!” or “I need help!” or “I can’t do this by myself any more!” Each of these statements is an admission of powerlessness. That is why it does not work when we try to get sober for somebody else like a family member or employer. We have to admit defeat to ourselves and we have to seek help for ourselves. Feel free to test yourself online.

“I Know I Cannot Stop on my Own. I’ve Tried Before And It Did Not Work. Are You Saying It Is Actually Possible?”

Yes, it is possible. There are sober members of SA all over the world, both single and married. Together we can get sober and stay sober in SA, as we work the program one day at a time.

“How Can I Become A Member?”

All who believe they may have a problem with lust are welcome to attend SA closed meetings and may consider themselves members if they say they have a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.

“How Much Will It Cost Me To Join?”

SA meetings are free. There are no dues or fees for membership. We pass a basket at meetings for donations to pay for rent, literature, coffee, etc. In the spirit of our Seventh Tradition, we are self-supporting through our own contributions.

“What Do I Have To Do To Get Sober?”

While there are no absolutes in the SA program, we can share with you what we know about getting sober. We go to meetings; we work the Steps; we use the literature (both SA and AA); we have sponsors to whom we talk on a regular basis. Many of us have come to trust in a Higher Power who keeps us sober. Okay — I’m Willing to Give It a Try.

Welcome to Sexaholics Anonymous Ontario

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) From Newcomers

Welcome to
Sexaholics Anonymous Ontario